When I was in cognitive behavioral therapy as a teenager, my therapist would always send me away with homework. In my head I was like, are you really that good of a therapist if what we’re doing in session isn’t enough? Plus, I had academic work to do– the stuff that had an immediate effect on my …
Since the 1990’s, The Five Love Languages have become one of the most popular theories used to help couples communicate more effectively. Gary Chapman, the creator, even wrote a whole book on the subject, referring to them as “the secret to love that lasts.” With a claim that powerful, I’m sure you want to know …
You might know this about me by now, but I find dating and love endlessly fascinating, especially online dating. Recently, I started looking into the effects of online dating on real life, and felt a need to share my rules for dating safely online. In doing that research, I came to realize how many women …
Have you heard of ASMR videos yet? ASMR stands for autonomous sensory meridian response, which is a (made-up, non-scientific) term for the relaxation people feel when listening to certain sounds. For most, it’s a tingling feeling that starts in the back of the head and travels, depending on intensity, throughout other parts of the body. …
When I was a freshman in high school, my teacher cried as she read aloud the last few pages of To Kill a Mockingbird. We all tried to stifle our giggles, but luckily, she didn’t mind. She knew one day we would understand. Our freshman year curriculum was full of classic novels to read for coming-of-age style …
A little over a year ago, I wrote a post for my old blog, Uninspired, about the post grad blues, or post grad depression. Basically, that’s the time period after college where you’re adjusting to the real world. When I wrote that post, I had just finished my freshman year of life, as I like …
One of the strongest beliefs I hold as a therapist is that we should refrain from using symptom relief as a cure. For example, if you’re feeling depressed, symptoms might be sluggishness, tearfulness, etc. These symptoms are hinting to the fact that something needs to be dealt with in your body. If you don’t they’ll return …
We all know what a regular bucket list is. It’s a list of things you want to do before you, well…kick the bucket. And they can be really inspiring because they encourage you to leave your comfort zone and outline your life goals. But sometimes, they can make you feel a little bad about yourself, …
I’ve had sex on the brain lately! Of course, that’s because the last class I’m taking to finish up grad school right now is Human Sexuality. We’ve talked about so many cases where the partners had stopped being interested in sex. They were at a loss for how to get it back. I’m not about …
Today’s post is all about talking to each other! As a marriage and family therapist, I’m highly trained to teach you lovely folks the rules of effective communication. As it turns out, in our lifelong quests to avoid confrontation, we’ve gotten really good at passive aggression and hoping our partners figure out what they’ve done …